In these six phases, you’ll move from simply naming your trauma to actively working through its impact. This is the heart of the healing journey: recognizing how trauma shows up in your life, addressing self-sabotage, processing emotions like anger and grief, and beginning to release shame and faulty beliefs. Through it all, God meets you with His truth, goodness, and mercy, renewing your mind and inviting you to trust Him more deeply.

Phase 7: I am safe to assess how my trauma shows up in my life. I can trust God to help me renew my mind. I am ready to move forward.

• During this Phase you may find yourself saying, “Why can’t I just be like everybody else?” In this phase, you’re ready to look at the “hot spots” where trauma shows up in daily life. Simply becoming self-aware opens the door to healing.

• You may also notice this thought, “I am ready to let go of false ideas.” You are invited to spend time with God, allowing Him to renew your mind and reset your systems with His truth.

Phase 8: I can address the areas in my life where I self-sabotage. I can learn to trust what God says of me rather than the lies my trauma tells me.

• In this Phase you may find yourself saying, “I do the things I don’t want to do, and don’t do the things I want to.” Here you begin moving from reflection to action, addressing self-sabotage and unmet needs.

• It's also common for us to hold onto this truth, “I am the apple of His eye, valued beyond pearls, cherished beyond measure. I will trust in Him alone.” Even when progress feels messy, God sees your growth and will complete the good work He’s begun in you.

Phase 9: I admit my anger and am brave enough to explore the emotions that lay beneath it. I can allow God to show me how to take positive action to bring greater safety and justice in my life.

• It's totally normal if you're hearing yourself think, “It makes me so f^cking mad, why the h@ll did I have to go through this?” during this Phase, Anger is God’s gift to reveal when safety has been violated. In this phase, you admit, release, and explore it.

• We hope you echo that with, “My God is a big God, and He can handle these big, explosive emotions.” God can help you transform anger into positive, life-giving action that brings greater safety and justice.

Phase 10: I am ready to let go of the shame that I have carried. I can let God transform my shame into belovedness.

• It's taken a while, but at this Phase you'll be ready to say, “I am ready to be free.” Here you release shame that says “I am unworthy” and begin to live as God’s beloved daughter.

• However, we know that because of what you've carried you may also be saying, “Can He truly love me?” God not only fully knows you, He fully loves you. In this phase you allow His truth to replace shame with belovedness.

Phase 11: I can start to explore other faulty beliefs I carry. I can start to let God replace them with His truth, goodness, and beauty.

• Now, we're ready to say, “When I was in trauma, I thought like a person in trauma. Now that I’m safe, I can think like a person living in safety.” You begin noticing faulty beliefs and patterns shaped by trauma and start to release them.

• And at the same time we can question it by thinking, “It seems impossible to replace a lifetime of feeling unworthy at this point, and yet, I trust in God.” You bring these beliefs to God, trusting Him to replace them with His truth and goodness.

Phase 12: I am free to grieve the things my trauma has stolen from me. I see Jesus as the Wounded Healer and invite him into my pain with me.

• You have waited a long time to say this, but now it's true, “My life will never be the same - I can let go of the past.” Grief helps you release losses and open space for what is coming, even if it arrives in waves.

• And a truth you can hold onto for this Phase is, “You expired, Jesus, but the source of life gushed forth for souls…” In this phase, you grieve with Christ, who weeps with you, holds you, and stays as long as you need Him.

Processing trauma takes courage. Each step may feel heavy, but every layer you peel back makes space for more freedom, clarity, and peace. You are not alone in this work — God walks with you, mentors and peers can support you, and your own resilience grows stronger as you move forward. Remember, healing isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress, honesty, and hope.

Phase 13: I am ready to resolve my trauma with those who were responsible and those who failed to address it. I will honor myself and God as we redeem my story.

• You're ready to finally admit, "I can’t carry this anymore - it was never mine to carry in the first place.” You release the burden of blame and betrayal, naming perpetrators and false labels for what they are.
• And you can fully believe, “With God at my side, I can release the strongholds my trauma has over me.” Forgiveness becomes a process of reclaiming power, while still honoring justice and your safety.

Phase 14: I forgive myself for unhealthy behaviors that resulted from my trauma. I embrace God’s compassion and am free to be the ‘me’ He created me to be.

• It's okay if you're still saying, “Sometimes I feel I am my own worst enemy.” You recognize that harmful choices were survival strategies born of trauma, not your true self.
• this is where we get to ask, “Father, I don’t want my choices to separate me from your love. Can you still love me knowing all the things I’ve done?” With God’s compassion, you forgive yourself and embrace freedom to live in joy and purpose.

Phase 15: I can take responsibility for my maladaptive behaviors. I seek forgiveness in a way that honors me, honors God and my healing process.

• Now you're ready to be the trailblazer and say, “I refuse to perpetuate trauma.” You face the ways your behaviors harmed others, choosing responsibility without shame.
• And you're ready to lead by example when you say, “I am but one member in the body of Christ. This work is not only healing me but allowing me to extend healing to others.” With God, you discern how to seek forgiveness and freedom in a way that brings restoration.
  
  

Phase 16: I can restore health to supportive relationships and create greater safety in unsupportive ones. I will trust God for the Wisdom to set boundaries, and to meet my needs when others cannot.

• Now, you've done your work, and it's time to say, “I see all the changes in me - but they are all still the same.” You strengthen healthy relationships while setting boundaries with those who cannot support your healing.
• And you have true freedom as you learn to say, “When I am free to say no, I am actually free to say yes.” With God’s wisdom, you build safety, dignity, and community rooted in love.

Phase 17: I am ready to take captive my toxic thoughts and transform them into empowering ones. I can trust God to renew my mind in the moment to reflect my dignity, peace, joy and belovedness.

• Here near the end, we find once more we're going to say it, “I thought I was done with all of this!” You learn to quickly recognize toxic thoughts, grounding yourself in the truth of all the healing you’ve done.
• And we're going to breathe a sigh of relief and whisper, “God, I am grateful you have led me to still waters - help me in the moment to stay present.” With scripture and the Spirit, you replace lies with God’s promises, renewing your mind in His presence.

Phase 18: I am ready to bring joy into my life by redeeming and recreating my goals and dreams. I will discern what my purpose is, and trust God to be with me as I live in full integration of mind, body and spirit.

• You can stand in the truth and say, “He will raise me up like a fledgling eagle on her mother’s back and show me from His vantage point the possibilities He is creating for me.” You step forward with joy, freedom, and purpose, no longer defined by trauma.
• You can embrace victory and hold onto the truth that “I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me.” In this phase, you discern God’s best for your future, living as your authentic and beloved self.

Moving beyond your trauma does not mean forgetting what happened, but allowing God to transform it into a testimony of healing. You are no longer defined by what was done to you — you are defined by who you are in Christ: beloved, free, and fully alive. Each step you take in this movement affirms that your future is not held captive by your past. You are being restored to live as the woman God created you to be.